“Yes, Virginia . . . I am a dinosaur.” Of course, I mean it in the sense that I am the type of woman that would be considered old fashioned, square, traditional and out of touch with the times. So be it. I know what is expected of me by the Lord and do my best to fulfill that role.
And by the way, since we are on the subject of dinosaurs, I would take it as a compliment for they are strong, unique, and wonderfully made. They do appear in Scripture and they did live with man. In the book of Job, there are two amazing creatures described and called behemoth and leviathan. The word dinosaur didn’t exist back then or they certainly would have been called dinosaurs. And no, they are not an elephant or a rhinoceros as many modern people suggest. Read the description! Take behemoth for example. He moves his tail as a cedar. That certainly is not like any elephant tail I ever saw! His bones are strong as brass and like bars of iron. Sounds a lot like a dinosaur to me! Leviathan has scales and breathes fire. When did you ever see a rhino do that? But I digress, let me get back to my original subject. You can check this out for yourself in Job chapters 40 and 41.
The lack of real femininity today is appalling. What happened to women that enjoy staying home, keeping the family, providing a peaceful and secure haven from the world? It’s no accident that a very well known saying is: The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. The mother is the most important teacher we have. If mama doesn’t train Junior to be honest, kind, strong (in the right ways), hard working, trustworthy, dependable, innovative, and wise then who will? If mama is at work all day, then who is keeping the home and training the children? If mama refuses to use discipline as well as love with the children then who will set their boundaries of behavior and acceptability? Of course it matters what is taught. What is taught depends on the individual world view or value system of the teacher. Since I am coming from a Christian world view, I’m saying that the Christian moms are not doing the job.
In my youth, there was a lot less variation in the homes of the neighborhoods where I lived. There was a working dad, a stay-at-home mom (with only a few exceptions), and children. Most went to church on Sundays. Yards and homes were nicely kept. Neighborhood kids played together. School was focused on the basics. It was a more homogeneous culture than we have today. Looking back on it, education was touted as important and parental support of it and participation in it was desired. Today, education is the biggest problem. What is taught matters. Public schools are hotbeds of humanism, tolerance, diversity worship, lack of discipline, lack of character and morals, and “anything goes – whatever floats your boat – you can’t make me” philosophies. It’s destroying our country and producing non thinkers who follow wicked leaders like sheep.
I remember a lecture in college (1970’s) that has stayed with me all these years. A woman executive from General Motors had come to speak to our mostly female class about her career and the possibilities for women in the work force. The talk was interesting although the auto industry didn’t thrill me. In the Q and A session afterward, someone asked this question: “Looking back over your life and career, is there anything you regret or that you would do differently?” She thought a moment and then said the one thing I will never forget. She regretted not having spent more time with her children. It was clear that she felt she had not given them the amount of time and attention they should have had from her. As I recall, they hadn’t turned out all that well, either. In my mind, I believed she had sacrificed her family to be able to have the career. Those lost opportunities will never come again. Time is the one thing that we must spend that we can never get back.
My husband and I made the conscious choice that I would stay home and keep the house and family while he worked to make the money to do so. We made the best choice and have never regretted it. As usual, before someone rakes me over the coals for being single minded on this issue, there are circumstances that require a woman to work in other ways. I have done so but never at the risk of the care of the family. Most of my work for money has been done at home because I have skills that allow me to do so. What I am saying here is that women in America by the droves are not fulfilling their God given role and are sacrificing their children and their husbands for their own selfish desires.
Where has the feminist movement gotten us? In his book Grave Influence — 21 Radicals and Their Worldviews that Rule America from the Grave, Brannon Howse gives us some very interesting information. Let’s start with Betty Friedan who wrote The Feminine Mystique published in 1963. It could be described as the Feminist Manifesto and drove the movement of the feminists in the 1970’s. She was an atheist and a Marxist. Benjamin Wicker quotes from her book, “women who are only wives and mothers are secretly or openly miserable because they cannot venture outside the home and cheerfully maximize their potential as human beings in meaningful work, just as men do.”
In critiquing her work, Wicker asks an obvious question: “What makes Friedan think it is a guaranteed fact that men just can’t wait to get up each morning to drive a truck, build a house, pave a road, paint a house, manage a store, fill out people’s tax forms, write their wills, or work in a laboratory? Countless men rise dutifully each morning to do jobs they really don’t enjoy and, in many cases, jobs they detest. But they do it for love of their families and for the purpose of providing for them. Many men long for the day they can retire and leave behind a job they long since stopped enjoying.”
Men are self sacrificing to fulfill their God given role to provide for the family, lead them in their spiritual walk, and protect them. Obviously, Friedan doesn’t have any concept of the Biblical way to live. Christian women are happy to have husbands who live this way so that both husband and wife can pursue the roles God has given them. This division of work is successful in raising children in decent Godly families that produce decent Godly families in the next generation. The pattern has worked for centuries but America is breaking the mold. In doing so, we are becoming a nation of ungodly, self seeking, uncaring, unproductive, and broken people.
Brannon Howse continues and says that the feminist agenda is simply that Friedan and her friends do not want women to find fulfillment in being wives and mothers. Phyllis Schlafly explains that feminists are really dictators who want to leave women no choice but to follow a humanist, politically correct lifestyle:
The feminists whine endlessly using their favorite word “choice” in matters of abortion, but they reject choice in gender roles. The Big Mama of feminist studies, Simone de Beauvoir, said, “We don’t believe that any woman should have this choice. No woman should be authorized to stay at home to raise her children. . . precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one.”
The feminists have carried on a long-running campaign to make husbands and fathers unnecessary and irrelevant. Most divorces are initiated by women, and more women than men request same-sex marriage licenses in Massachusetts so that, with two affirmative-action jobs plus in vitro fertilization, they can create a “family” without husbands or fathers.
Despite the false messages of the colleges and the media, most American women are smart enough to reject the label feminist, and only 20 percent of mothers say they want fulltime work in the labor force. I suggest that women suffering from unhappiness should look into how women are treated in the rest of the world, and then maybe American women would realize they are the most fortunate people on earth.
Schlafly, a Washington University Law School-educated lawyer, gives a very interesting progression in feminism. In 1970, Gloria Steinem told a Senate Judiciary Committee that it was a “myth” to believe that children must have full-time mothers at home. She said our children were suffering from too much mother and too little father. Part of the program of Women’s Liberation was to return fathers to their children.
In 1974, Hillary Clinton wrote about wives being in “a dependency relationship” which she said is akin to “slavery and the Indian reservation system.”
In 1977, Ruth Bader Ginsburg wrote in her book Sex Bias in the U.S. Code, that “all legislation based on the breadwinning–husband, dependent home–making–wife pattern” must be eliminated “to reflect the equality principle” because a “scheme” built upon that situation “inevitably treats the woman’s efforts or aspirations in the economic sector as less important than the man’s.” Feminist literature is full of put downs of the traditional role of housewife and mother.
Easy divorce became a primary goal of feminists touting marriage as a slavery like practice. When these ideas became more accepted over time, the feminists did a complete turnaround on the importance of mothers raising their children so that they could get fathers involved more equally in child care. Now, in divorce cases, mothers demand total legal and physical custody and a large chunk of the father’s paycheck with little or no visitation rights. Suddenly the ex–husband is a great paycheck and the dependent wife needs his input of money. Feminists just want the man out of the picture. In short we should just throw our hands up in the air and say in exasperation, “What do women really want?”
The NOW organization (National Organization for Women) is pro – abortion, always backs Democrats, is for gay rights, worldwide legalization of prostitution, and unrestricted access to pornography in public libraries among other things.
The League of Women Voters supports gun control, abortion, universal health care, environmental regulation, and increased United Nations power.
The Girl Scouts went feminist when Betty Friedan was taken onto their board. They dropped “loyalty” from the oath, began a condom-friendly sex-ed program, and made belief in God optional.
Many sister groups of the feminist organizations push for government day care, paid entitlements to family leave, unrestricted access to abortion, lesbian rights, affirmative action, universal health care and comparable worth.
An article in the Desert News posted July 4, 2009 spoke of a survey finding that many married ladies feel it would be better to go the mommy route alone. There would be less fighting in the home, less trouble with in-laws, and no chore to keep up a healthy marriage. Single moms agree and feel relieved to not have to worry about working on a marriage. They can pursue their own dreams.
Feminism has been a tool to destroy the family. Men are weak and women are trying to be powerful. Most Americans believe that freedom and liberty means the right to do whatever works for them and makes them happy without caring about their fellow man. The American people have wanted to rebel against God and have embraced anything that lets them be in charge rather than Him. The breakup of the family has caused poverty and a welfare mentality that allows our government, indeed begs them, to do more, provide more, and control more.
I’m a “dinosaur” by choice and conviction. The God given role of the woman as keeper of the home is a privilege. It is not less valuable than the God given role of the man to be the provider and leader. Men and women were designed to complement each other. By working as a team in the roles that are most successful as defined by our Creator, we can please Him and have homes that are Biblically solid, loving, moral, joyful, and productive.
I highly recommend the Brannon Howse book Grave Influence — 21 Radicals and Their Worldviews that Rule America from the Grave if you want to understand what has happened to our American culture.